Healing Your Inner Child: Learn to Mother Yourself

Take These Steps to Heal Your Inner Child

1. List all your traumas or dramas between the ages of zero and twelve (if your mother has told you stories about negative events that happened while you were in utero, list those too as they can be addressed in the same way).

2. Rescue your inner child and begin to mother her. This can be done at one age or multiple ages. You can find this child in any memories that still haunt you or in memories left unhealed.

3. Take some time to tell this child that you love her and she is not alone. Hold her and make sure she knows how cared for she is. You can even hold a pillow while doing this. Allow any tears to flow or screams to arise.

4. Go into the memory – the actual room of the trauma or drama—and pick up this child. Carry her out of the house or place her somewhere that feels safe and secure. Create a loving home for her and a place that you can return to in meditation. Make sure she has all the amenities to keep her happy.

5. Talk to the perpetrators or past caretakers – whoever it is that caused you pain. You must be the adult that shuts them down, because deep in the subconscious mind this is still happening to you in the present moment. Whatever the subconscious mind needs to do in order to dissolve the issues, do it. Put these adults in parenting school, bring angels in to take care of them, take them to a healing place, put them in jail or take them to court. Do something in your mind’s eye that releases the pain and creates justice.

6. By mothering yourself, you will become a better mother. If these wounds are left unhealed, they will creep back into your own experiences, triggering you while raising your children. The cycle stops with you.